Outline
- Introduction
- What's Pornography?
- Who Watches Pornography?
- #1: Pornography Enslaves You
- #2: Pornography Automatically Leads You to Masturbation
- #3: Pornography Snatches Away Your Focus
- #4: Pornography Weakens You Physically
- #5: Pornography Weakens You Psychologically
- #6: Pornography Dissociates You from the Society
- #7: Pornography Ages You Faster
- #8: Pornography Keeps You in an Unending Delusion
- #9: Until You Quit Pornography, You Aren't Ready for a Successful Marriage
- #10: Pornography is Undoubtedly Sinful, Really!
- Conclusion
Introduction
Alḥamdulillah… All praise and thanks are due to Allah the All-Might. I send abundant peace and blessings upon the Prophet of purity and morality, Ḥabībī Muḥammad, his household, his companions and all those who follow his guided path till judgement day.
In the present day of the digital era, pornography is prevalent everywhere. It’s easily accessible. To the extent that, of 400 million online searches, one in eight (12.5%) is for pornography. Due to the inclination of human kind to temptations for sexual desires, pornography has been one of the effective tools used in keeping youths out of morality, decency, and productivity. It also shuns them from being visionary and committed to worthwhile and good causes. Non-Muslims may be the main giants behind the industry. But sadly, Muslims are equally consumers of pornography as non-Muslims.
This article is not discussing the production of pornography. It’s not also discussing performing in porn or engaging in promoting it. Producing pornography includes any means of involvement in its production. This encompasses the models and the characters you may see in pornography. Also encompassed are the sponsors and masterminds, crew (behind the scene, whom) we don’t see in the process of pornography production. I assume that pornography is shameful enough that its producers (even if they are atheists, let alone religious) know for sure that it’s sinful and morally uncalled for, to produce such a thing.
The article is, rather, concerned about the state, where the cruelty of this product (pornography) has landed its victims. Many of these victims are aware of the danger of their state, but may or may not know why they should put in some effort to get out of such a miserable state. Therefore, the article presents 10 reasons you should not allow yourself to be degraded from the nobility Allah has bestowed upon you, son of Adam, into being a victim of the destruction of the destructive industry of pornography. To begin, let’s, first, agree on the definition of pornography.
What's Pornography?
We may not be able to control the industry, but we can control ourselves
Islam has prohibited upon us all sort of hideous and shameless acts and words. Pornography is one of such shameless acts, if not on top of them. Shamelessness comes in verbal and action forms. Vulgarity is shamelessness. Rudeness is shamelessness, and so is every hideous act. But fornication (zinā) is the shamelessness that ruins all human societies in secret. And one of the things that lead to it is pornography, and the opposite is true (the two lead to each other interchangeably).
The Oxford Dictionary of English defines pornography as any “printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate sexual excitement.”
In other words, pornography is any printed or visual material that promotes the desire for unlawful sex. It also promotes rape and sexual harassment. Furthermore, pornography urges sexual violence among lawfully married couples (I’ll explain this later… hold your breath and keep reading). I claim that pornography promotes the desire for unlawful sex because, lawfully married couples –in normal circumstances, would need not any one to promote sex to them for them to make love. Take a minute and ponder upon any 3 commercial adverts you've seen today, be it on the TV, in YouTube, Facebook, newspaper/magazine or even on a poster in the street. It's likely that, if not all do stimulate sexual excitement (or sexual thoughts –in a way or the other) one or two do.
In Islam, it's fundamental that promoting sex in the public domain is prohibited, save when it’s for the good cause, for troubled married couples or for righteous educational purposes. This is because it instigates those who can't afford marriage to commit harassment, fornication, and worst still; rape. Thus, Islam commands us stay clear from anything that could lead us to zinā (fornication/adultery). For that Allah says in Sūrah al-Isrā' (17:32):
“Do not even approach fornication for it is an outrageous act, and an evil way.”
It’s important to indicate here, that Islam does not prohibit sex, nor does it discourage it. It rather prohibits unlawful sex, regardless, whether it happens with the agreement of the parties involved or not. Islam discourages acts and sex that promotes evil, immorality, and transgression on earth. Means that influence the decision to fall into pornography include commercial adverts (in the TV, newspapers, magazines and others), and the free and easy accessibility to the Internet.
We may not be able to control the industry, but we can control ourselves, only if we choose to be mindful of the bounds set by Allah. Despite our weakness as human beings (being brought to earth to be trialed), we're also given some strength and power to overcome, with the leave of Allah, our desires and control ourselves. That is the will to do or not to do. To embark on something or not to. Because of this strength, the Muslim, man and woman are enjoined to cast down their gaze and seize it on the opposite gender, where applicable. Why? Because it helps to create a clean and safe environment for all; an environment that is less polluted and less inflicted with immorality, shamelessness, rape, sexual harassment and transgression. It also helps to have an environment where the dignity of the woman is preserved, and she’s dignified as a mother, a sister, a wife, or a daughter. For that, Allah says in Sūrah al-Nūr (24:30-31):
“And O Prophet, enjoin the Believing men to restrain their gaze and guard their private parts. This is a more righteous way for them: Allah has knowledge of what they do. O Prophet, enjoin the Believing women to restrain their gaze and guard their private parts.”
It’s worth emphasizing here, that pornography is not only what xxx websites in the Internet provide. As time goes, there’re many things that have normalized in secular societies, including pornography. This is because it sells and makes them lots of money. The magazines, the newspapers, the TV and the adverts therein do portray porn, especially from Islamic perspective. When they make money others are victimized. Don't be the voluntary victim.
For instance, in the secular context, there are contents that are safe for children (under 18 years), whereby other contents are adult content. In Islam, a content that is safe should be safe for both adult and minor. An unsafe content is unsafe for all.
Think of Hollywood, Bollywood and Nollywood movies. Think of the Korean and Japanese dramas. Think of the shameless Egyptian (and Arab) dramas mainly broadcasted during Ramadān. By the end of each episode, the viewer’s mind is likely polluted and filled with filthy sexual thoughts. This is, if the objective of the episode is not (in the first place) to promote evil agenda, immorality and shamelessness.
The next section briefly highlights who watches pornography.
Who Watches Pornography?
The smarter you think you are, the easily you fall prey to pornography
The desire for sexual satisfaction is as demanding as the desire for the satisfaction for food and water. For that matter, the temptation and the urge to fulfilling it is indifferent from the temptation to committing any offence in the absence of CCTVs. This is to say, it’s a natural and built-in instinct, which we are required to have control over.
Studies have shown that, both male and female are tempted to pornography. But males are the biggest fans of it. According to the Covenant Eye, “men are more than 543% more likely to look at porn than women.” Also, “68% of young adult men and 18% of women use porn at least once every week.” There’s no wonder then that 1 in 5 mobile searches are for pornography.
Also, all age ranges do watch pornography. But “teens up to early 40s are the biggest viewers of pornography.” Statistics from the Covenant Eye shows that “9 out of 10 boys are exposed to pornography before the age of 18, while 6 out of 10 girls are exposed to pornography before the age of 18.” Furthermore, the average American child is first exposed to pornography (porn as defined in the circular context) at the age of 12.
There’re many factors that trigger the urge for pornography, including home culture (upbringing), social exposure, peer pressure, easy access to the Internet and boredom. With these factors in place, the victim finds himself enough excuse and conviction, with which he normalizes pornography for himself.
Those who watch porn also include Muslims (unfortunately) and non-Muslims. Being a practicing Muslim who prays five times a day may not be enough a factor, to stop one from falling to pornography. But being determined to control one’s desires while observing Allah-consciousness is certainly helpful in preventing oneself from falling to pornography.
If you do watch porn, below is a list of 10 reasons you should quit by the leave of Allah. One may need some time (gradual process) to quit, but there must be readiness and willingness that he wants to quit and to reclaim his self. If you don't watch pornography, but happen to know someone who does, you ought to help him and free him fro this affliction, due to the following 10 reasons.
#1: Pornography Enslaves You
Pornography enslaves you and controls you
It's very easy to get addicted to pornography. If you don't, please don't try. This, because it’s easier than you can ever guess. The easier it is to get hooked to it, the more difficult it is, on the other hand, to give up on it. The experienced have confirmed that it's more addictive than the addiction of cocaine, heroine and other drugs.
This confirms that, desirable things can enslave its doers easily. And once man is enslaved to his desires, he gets trapped in it and he may have to struggle a ‘big deal’ before he can free himself, by the leave of Allah. The more educated he thinks he is, the more excuses he creates to justify for himself, just to remain enslaved to it. Pornography is just one of such.
This is to say; the one who gets addicted to pornography finds no happiness without doing (watching) it. Nothing interests him. Nothing attracts him. Nothing excites him. Only porn excites him. When nothing excites you but pornography, that means even ṣalāh and dhikr (remembrance of Allah) do not excite you, and hence, they don't bring you comfort. In this case, something is seriously wrong, and it must be fixed immediately.
The scary part, according to addicts, is that, the more of it you see, the more of it you want. And anytime you see more, you expect something weirder (“hotter”) in the next time. This means, the more of it you see, the more unsatisfied you become. And watching pornography is nothing but to stimuli you for masturbation.
#2: Pornography Automatically Leads You to Masturbation
Pornography leads you to masturbation
Masturbation is an instant relief from the need for sexual intercourse. This happens when the doer plays with his private parts and arouses his sexual desire until he ejaculates. Masturbation puts you to moodiness, anxiety and physical weakness. Masturbation dehydrates you, and that weakens you further. Why is it so?
It's because, sex in a lawful marriage attains you intimacy, love, happiness and excitement although dehydration happens. It also bonds you with your lawful spouse, for intimacy takes place with the presence of a spouse, not an object, image or imagination. Masturbation isn't able to grant you love and intimacy due to the absence of a spouse in the process.
Generally, whoever tells you that masturbation is harmless is not telling you the truth. You may not know how harmful masturbation is if you’ve never done it. If this is true, then be thankful to Allah, and don't ever try it. If you're already addicted to it, then you know, for sure, the inner crisis and the psychological damage masturbation causes its addicts. To quit, I invite you to reading my article, How to Quit the Secret Habit. Once pornography has successfully led one to masturbation, that’s when he loses his focus for anything other than masturbation and pornography.
#3: Pornography Snatches Away Your Focus
When addicted to porn, you lose focus in whatever you do
Pornography (and masturbation) is addictive that, once you are hooked to it, it controls your thoughts, which in return will control your maturity, growth and productivity. This is as a result of its addiction. The addict would always want more of it, and thus he would always think about it. The sad part is, his mind tells him that, that’s only where he’ll get satisfaction. Even if we assume that it can really give you satisfaction, the truth is, you can’t be doing it 24/7. And since your urge for it has overfed to addiction, your mind becomes always connected to it. As much as you want to see it, you want to think about it. Thus, whatever you do, you will be seen (as you yourself will feel) either daydreaming or unproductive. You’ll be seen with no focus or interest in whatever you do.
With lack of focus, you become physically weak. How is that possible? See the next section.
#4: Pornography Weakens You Physically
When addicted to pornography, you lose your physical energy
If you're addicted to pornography, there’s a high possibility that you have difficulty in sleeping during nighttime. This frustrates and exhausts you, besides your focus being snatched away from you. Already, nothing interests you but pornography, here comes another test that you have to experience –sleeplessness. A bad or disrupted sleep affects your productivity during the daytime, regardless of what you do.
With loss of focus, lack of sleep, which has led to physical weakness, one becomes temperamental. Since nothing interests you, nothing will please you. Since nothing pleases you, everything will anger you. This physical weakness is followed by psychological weakness. How? The next section answers that.
#5: Pornography Weakens You Psychologically
When addicted to porn, you lose your worth, psychologically
If you talk to pornography addicts, you understand that they have constant guilty consciousness. This leads some of them, if not all, to develop low self-esteem. With low self-esteem, and lack of confidence, even the strongest could turn to be the weakest. He’s not able to impress himself of its abilities and potentials, how could he impress others?
With this guilty-consciousness, low self-esteem and lack of confidence, pornography addicts starts to dissociate from the society they live in.
#6: Pornography Dissociates You from the Society
Pornography keeps you in a permanent isolation
When you're trapped in the cage of pornography, you only find your ‘happiness' by watching it. This happiness is by all means fake and delusion. And since you can't watch it in public, at least not in the presence of people who you know they dislike it, or in front of people you respect (or are afraid of), you have to isolate yourself, so to entertain that false excitement (lust).
The sense of guilty-consciousness and low self-esteem further isolates the victim of pornography from the society, as he no longer finds it to be his comfort zone. His comfort zone becomes only where his computer, mobile phone, tablet or magazines are. His comfort zone is isolation.
Unless you are doing something productive, and unless you’re devoteously invoking Allah in your privacy, pornography (if that is what isolates you) will never set you free, as Iblīs wants to see you stay. And with that, you’re in an unending delusion. In addition to that unending delusion, with the effect of pornography on you, you age faster.
#7: Pornography Ages You Faster
With both physical and psychological weakness, with loss of focus, and constant thoughts about images that are unrealistic and damaging at the same time, one is overwhelmed with anxiety and fear, both of which can age him faster.
Again, I said you would age faster. I didn’t say you’d gain maturity. One’s age does not increase nor decrease, but he’s will be weak and age at young age. Ageing at young age doesn’t mean maturity. For maturity dictates upon one to abstain from hideouts, especially when Islam has emphasized in condemning it and its likes. Maturity requires focus, determination and effective participation in the society to learn and experiment. When you age faster, you look older but immature and childish.
The other effect of pornography addiction that comes with ageing faster is living an unending delusion.
#8: Pornography Keeps You in an Unending Delusion
Pornography keeps you in a permanent delusion
The delusion of addiction to pornography is that, your mind tells you that you can surely find happiness and excitement by just doing the wrong thing –pornography.
The married person will want to attain the perceived excitement with his spouse. Inability to attain that is what leads to sexual violence in the wedlock. The party who is hooked to pornography may perceive (wrongly) that with aggression, he could attain higher level of excitement, not knowing that those he’s been watching in pornography have been under high influence of drugs.
The non-married addict continues to search for that happiness by watching more and more. He may also think he will get that happiness if he does it in real. Thus, he’ll consider getting married. The thing is, it’s certainly good for the single to get married, so to protect his modesty from fitnah and get him close to Allah. But until you quit watching pornography, you’re not ready for a successful marriage.
#9: Until You Quit Pornography, You Aren't Ready for a Successful Marriage
To have a successful marriage, you must decide to quit watching pornography
Unfortunately, some porn addicts may think marriage could save them from this fitnah. But the opposite is true. One of the main factors that motivate both man and woman to commit to marriage contract is the sexual satisfaction factor. You won’t go for a marriage if you know, for sure, that you aren’t going to enjoy sexual satisfaction in that marriage. Would you? This is although sex takes minor percentage in marriage life. For instance, according to Women’s Day, the average person ‘makes love’ 103 times in a year. That is 28.2% of the year. If we assume that this is applicable to married couples, and we therefore generalize it on a marriage life, it’s only 28.2 % of the marriage life that is for ‘making love.’ Nevertheless, it’s very crucial as it determines the survival of marriage.
Thus, a marriage in which the couple involved is not enjoying a good sex life and for that matter are not satisfied is doomed for failure.
This is because the scenes of pornography contain more delusion than reality; as a result of the overdosed drugs the porn ‘artists’ take for the purpose. Unfortunately, the one who sees a couple performing it in a certain way may think he, too, can perform it in a similar way, and attain the perceived false excitement, which he was made to visualize.
One of the things that affect the quality of sex life in marriage is the inability to fulfill certain perceptions about sex in marriage. And this happens, when one is trapped in pornography (movies and magazines). This is to say most dramas and movies are not porn (in the secular context), but they play the same role to some extent. And by right, they are Islamically inappropriate.
Since watching pornography creates unrealistic reality in the mind of its victim, he assumes sex in marriage life to be exactly as he watches it (in the pornography) or better. Not knowing that movies, novels, and for that matter pornography are planned, rehearsed, acted and shot to create unrealistic imagination in the real life. And when the victim determines to live up to just that in real life, he finds himself hit by failure in the relevant endeavour.
So, if you are planning to have a successful marriage life (with sex that comes with it), prepare to quit watching pornography from today, and eradicate all those scenes from your memory. How long it will take you to eradicate those scenes from your memory depends on how long you've been trapped in it. It also depends on how ready and how serious you are about quitting. To achieve that, one may need to seek professional help from a specialist.
If you’re married, hooked with pornography, and yet searching for success in your marriage, it’s time for you to make a choice. Either your marriage or your pornography. Please choose your marriage. I beg you for Allah’s sake! Do you know why you shouldn’t choose porn over your marriage? Because pornography is undoubtedly sinful.
#10: Pornography is Undoubtedly Sinful, Really!
Pornography is sinful in Islam
In the introduction of this article, I indicated that, it’s fundamental that the production of pornography is a big no.. no.. in Islam. Even if all you do in the crew is to handle the security of the studio where the pornography has been shot.
Now, it’s time to indicate that watching pornography is sinful in many ways. You watch the ‘aurah (private parts) of people you’re not allowed to by religion and morality. You are doing masturbation, which weakens you further and masturbation is not allowed. Also, you also cause harm to yourself, and Islam disallows us doing anything that brings harm to us and to others. Furthermore, the parties involved in porn are committing fornication. A Muslim wouldn't want to watch a lawfully married couple making love, why then would he voluntarily watch unlawful couples committing fornication?!
The Qur'an has prohibited us from going close to immorality and shamelessness, whether it’s in public or in private, whether it’s known or unknown. And fornication is the top of immorality and shamelessness, as far as social cleanliness are concerned.
The implication of obsession with sin, be it minor or major, is that, it takes away the blessings, which Allah has bestowed upon the servant. The scariest of all is that, although Allah may continue to bestow His bounty upon the sinner despite being indulged with sin, he’s made to forget Allah. When one forgets Allah, he is made to forget himself too. He forgets that Allah is All-Forgiving, and hence sinks in whatever evil that he’s trapped in. He forgets that Allah accepts repentance and hence he chooses to please Iblīs. He forgets his mission and objectives in this life. And the end starts from there.
Conclusion
Watching porn, even for one time is sinful in Islam. That's spiritual. Continuing with it has health and psychological implications, which it may take one a long time to recover from. Deciding to live with it invites Allah’s wrath upon one, and takes away His blessing upon him.
Human beings are not perfect, and for that, we are expected to fall to our weaknesses from time to time. When we've committed a sin, we need to repent sincerely, but making taubah (repentance) from doing it doesn't necessarily cure the problem one might have accumulated from watching pornography. The only way he has to take in order to get rid of problems resulted from watching pornography is to quit and seek psychological help from the specialists. Now, he can top all that with an honest and sincere du‘ā, that Allah may forgive him and cure him from this sickness and purify his heart from evil desires.
If you’re not yet married, do not delude yourself by saying, “Watching it teaches me how… for when I get married.” This is not true. Watching sexual scenes doesn't teach, but rather afflicts you. Please take heed.
This is what the one who is obsessed with pornography should know, in order for him to decide to quit. If you’re not obsessed with it (that is you do not watch it), then, there’s no reason for you to think of trying it. If you're convinced based on what you've just read that the Muslim should quit watching pornography, you may wondering about how to quit. Check out my 10 Ways for the Muslim to Quit Pornography for Good.
The 10 reasons highlighted in this article are those I could think of, based on emails I received and conversations I had with troubled Muslim brethren. What are some of the reasons (for which) you think the Muslim should quit watching pornography. Please share with us your thoughts in the comments area.
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Allah knows best.
Allāhu Hāfiz 🙂
“one may need to seek professional help from a specialist.”
So if i want to stop this sin i need professional help? How am i supposed to get that? My parents are kafir and i am a teenager.
Salam Brother Sulaiman,
What I mean by that is, after trying all the 10 Ways that can help you to quit watching pornography, if you still can’t quit, then it’s advisable that you seek professional help from professional counsellor. You can see the 10 Ways for the Muslim to Quit Pornography here: http://www.gsalam.net/10-ways-for-the-muslim-to-quit-pornography-for-good/
ASA! I am a little girl aged 13 and watched sex videos. I pray 5 times a day. I feel sooo bad and want to make twbah. How shall I make twbah and fear allah. Thanks
Wa’alaikumussalam Someone…
Thanks for your truthfulness. I understand you’re 13. That means you’re schooling.
Taubah is helpful. But in my opinion you may need counselling, in addition to the taubah.
Therefore, I suggest that you book an appointment with school’s counsellor. Please be honest with him or her. It’s only then they can help you efficiently.
In the mean time, please read my article, 10 Ways for the Muslim to Quit Pornography for Good: http://www.gsalam.net/10-ways-for-the-muslim-to-quit-pornography-for-good/
Thank you.
I think I was exposed to this when I was very young. Belonging to a Muslim family whenever a ‘scene’ used to come up on tv, whoever had the remote used to change the channel. I always wanted to see what was happening. Then my elder sisters used to say another word for breast while talking to each other randomly and then when I used to come in they used to go like shh she’s here stop talking you’ll ruin her as well. This made me more curious and so I opened the computer I was very small then around 11 years or maybe 12 I don’t remember and I searched it up online didn’t know how to use google back then so I typed it in address bar and added .com to it and a website came with all nude ladies. That was the beginning. First I used to just watch and then in one video I saw a girl feeling herself so I tried that as well. I remember the first time I masturbated it was hard to get myself satisfied but now it has become easier and I’ve been trying to stop this habit since forever but I fail every time. I feel like I’m trapped. I can’t talk to anyone about it not even my mother. I get so disgusted after I’m done i just feel like killing myself. I don’t want to show this to Allah. I don’t know if it’s true but I heard Allah will show a movie of our lives when we go up and everyone can see it and I don’t want to experience that. Please help me out I’ve sinned so much I’m afraid I won’t be able to recover
Salamualikum, don’t lose hope.. killing yourself is not an option, occupy yourself with productive things do zikir, read Qur’an , exercise. Keep your gadgets away for some time. One thing i wanna tell u is if we creatures dont sin Allah would have destroy us and create a new creation.. so keep asking forgiveness and i recommend u to join muslim no fap it helps.
i dont know how can i help u in this case . the only act is to keep urself busy with family friends work.
try to stop, make it jihaad against urself.
yea. if someone deny at doomzday that he didnt do it. Everything will be shown to the person..
you will not be needing a specialist or some counsellor. just try to stop if u couldnt at first try , try again, u will figure it out in 2-3 tries .
i was able to stop for 3-4 months and now i am trying again.
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Get married thats the best way to stop it i am like you ! got exposed to filth when i was young!
if u are looking for a friend let me know i am here for you do not kill yourself !
If you can’t completely stop this, then try to decrease this. Once a month, then once after 2 month, then after 3 month. This will help you to stop this. ( you will fool this habith and shitan) and stop this. Also even if you r doing this that is one sin, but at least you can stop yourself from watch such webistes. This will help in controlling this. No matter how many times you are masturbating but you will not watch the porn. This will definitely help you stop this. At first this may keep you longer for a week, then 2 or 3 weeks and then a month and so on. So the crucial thing is not to watch porn. Then you will be able to refrain from masturbation for a month and even more and then you will be able to refrain from this for 3 months. And after 3 or 4 times try you will then be able to not masturbate fro half a year and so on. Try to keep yourself busy. Think about watching and doing such things as great sin. Take sex as that this is zina which is greater sin. One Muslim loose his/her belief (Eman) if one due this as mentioned in hadith. So this is not a small sin. A person think no one is watching so lets see video another time. but this is actually leading to actual zina. Because what you see you starting wishing to do such things in reality.
Firstly stop one major sin that is watching porn. Ok lets assume you keep on masturbating. but you have to make sure not to do the first sin (watching porn). Now say yourself i will masturbate after every 2 weeks. Then a month and so on. This will make you to fool such habit and Insha Allah finally you will able to stop this. Whenever you have such desires only stick to masturbate. Do this without thinking or at least not willingly thinking about porn things. This will fulfill your desire and then you will achieve your duration period which will make you confident that now you have your control upon your desire. And now masturbation is not a big deal. I can do it after this many duration. Upon that duration you can keep on lingering that duration which will lead not to masturbate for many years.
One more thing is think about your husband that you have to keep the sex / such desire only with your husband and you have to make yourself active and perfect for your husband. You r causing damage to yourself which you should do with your husband. So in actual you r doing things which you should with your husband and this is cheating and wrong. Only Muslim can better think about this thing. You have to think about that this is your implied commitment that you do this thing only with husband (not with alone).
What ever I have written is my own personal experience to stop this habit. And alhumdulilah I am stop this for years and even this thing happens after a year or 2 years. This did not affect me in shaking my confidence and after that months passed or years that I did not do it again and again. Only did it with huge gap of duration and also even not willingly only that it happened during shower. And key thing is that not to watch porn so I don’t create any story of any kind. Only did this (AstagfirulAllah) just like i m doing something with my body. So in actual this is a mental disease. If you control your mind ( mind don’t have any story or influence from videos) then even you do it more and more you will be able to stop this. as you know this is bad in every aspect (physical and mentally). so you will be able to stop this.
Amazing. Not a single word about the Prince of Darkness Satan who invented pornography to damn people to hell for eternity. Why couldn’t he just say that demons use immoral and evil porn to make you sin like a devil?
satan is also god
Nope, satan, it is a creature of god
I have been watching pornography since the age of 10, and have committed many sinful acts (zīna/fornication) at a ylung age. I feel like I am certain to be punished in jahannam for all etenity and I have repented during my whole life, yet I cannot seem to stop watching pornography. I have tried at least 20 times till now and have failed all of them. Your article gave me a bit of insight of what pornography really is and I know it is bad. Can I save myself from jahannam, when I am so close to it?
repentance door is never closed do taubah and shed one tear and ALLAH is most merciful he will forgive all of your sins!
You are not created to be sinless but u can sin less and repent to cleanse yourself!
Perform hajj or umrah it also cleanses your soul and your sins will be washed away!
i was exposed to porn when i was 10 and masturbated to porn at 13-14 i know how u feel it was not by my choice but my environment was bad influence on me !
but if u have willpower u can stop it !
watch hentai dont watch real porn
@Affan I’ve never watched porn before.
But try to use your laptop in the family room, or add a plugin which blocks certain websites.
Porn is an experimental weapon and new media drug that destroys the mass of people. If you continue to watch it then you gonna end up with bad death. Watching porn without masturbation leads to erectyle disfunction and it is almost impossible without masturbation.
I need help.. please.
I want to get some help from people, i want to quit watching those mind-controlling videos..
I used to watch porn a while back, i don’t know where it all started, but i think it was a few people i saw about them making jokes about a porn site, and hentai. (an animated porn thing) I had no idea what it was about so i just searched it up, and that’s how it all started.
Then i went on the porn site, and there has been my addiction growing for that site. I am a muslim and i want to quit, and i’m trying to quit right now. I don’t want anymore of this, i want to be a clean muslim and live a long happy life.
I feel so guilty and sad that i’m even starting to think if i would go burn in the fire where all the demons are, or be send up to heaven..
I want to start a normal life as a muslim, i wanna pray and maybe try to forgive myself, but i’m already thinking if it would be too late.
I didn’t told anybody about my addiction and i don’t want to, just think of my parents watching those things.
I just want to start a fresh, clean muslim life. How can i just do it?
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Please help, I’m 14 years old and just by puberty. It’s been a year since I first masturbated, and each day I regret and repent to Allah
i love hentai it is great and greatest all because hentai character never exist
Do we get impure if we just watch simple sex where the two are wearing the undergarments but sucking each other?
We are not supposed to be watching lovers having intimacy, regardless of how much is revealed from their bodies.
This pornography is a trap for youths, this is a curse for our life. I don’t know but this is destroying our social life. Killing our attitude, our eyes becomes a eye of a raper, even this time youths don’t count this as a sin.
The condition is getting worst then before..
May Allah help us specially we muslims to get rid of this underground pandemic. All adolescents may have a healthy life.
My married life had ruined because my husband used to watch porn.i sometime hate him and dont want to live with him any more but for children i am compromising and somehow i love him.he dont believe in sins and is not ready to quit this habit.i have become tired with my life.
Yes, pornography is not great and does change your view on the world and other peoples bodies. It is haram. However, some of the things I have read here are incredibely irresponsible. There are children writing about their sexual urges, some of them maybe secluded in their family, without anyone to talk. It does not help, to tell someone with a developing sexual drive to “just stop”. If they try to stop but don’t have the psychological means yet to do so or the layout to convert their sex drive into something else, it might actually hurt them more then if they continue masturbating and watching porn. Should they reduce it as much as they can, yes. Should they, try to find other solutions, yes. Are they going to hell because they haven’t learned how to live like a sexual human being. I really doubt it. Also, sexual urges can differ greatly in people and what’s easy for someone, might be absolute torture for another. Masterurbation isn’t great, it does weaken you and marriage is (probably) the remedy. But if you are without any hope, then don’t break and torture yourself, try moderation, try doing every day a little better and come to the understanding that what is healthy for you is ultimately also what Allah wants for you. Sometimes masturbation and watching contentonline can be related to psychic trauma as well. It most cases it is NOT the disease, but the symptom of imbalance in life. I firmly believe if you try overall being more healthy (and rememberance of Allah is of course a beig part of it), there will come the point where this need will just fade out. So, don’t dispair. Read books on psychology and sexuality and you will come to understand your body, your needs and yourself better; and you’ll probably be a more mature Muslim as well. These things are not just reason of desperation, they are always also the possibility to grow.
What is irresponsible in the article? Did I sentence anyone to hell? Just because something doesn’t make sense to you doesn’t mean it’s not the solution.
If a child start having sexual urges, he or she should be gotten married. You’ll tell me that’s illegal. The same law that sets 18 years as legal age for marriage is the same law that expose children to sexual content from childhood.
Anyone who is exposed to sexual content and is not allowed to get married with force of the law will have to suffer the consequences of that exposure. And masturbation, pornography and subsequently zina are the results.
We are dealing with fitrah. When the fitrah is exploited, then the damage may not be containable.
May Allah safeguard us.
There are some really good points here from the Sheikh. There are also some excellent points in the article. There are of course serious consequences for the viewer of Pornography, but we MUST also understand that the Insaan (human) was created by Allah SWT and DOES SIN. He may sin till the end of time, but as long as some conditions are met – BELIEVING in Allah SWT and his Messenger (Sallalahualayhiwasalam).
You must do some other things. The Shaytan is VERY clever, and has been practicing this since he was banished. So what does this mean? It means that this cursed DEVIL will find ANY and ALL ways to deceive the believers and disbelievers.
So first , acknowledge the problem exists. Without that you can not move forward. Ok, it is happening, you have watched in the past and are scared for your future. THAT is a good start.
Then, think of the MERCY of Allah SWT. He could have not let you wake up, he could have stopped your heart, he could made you die during the bad deed.
But he did NOT. In fact, he let you make it up to him. He let you ASK for forgiveness. So take that invitation from your creator. A creator that knows you, and knows EVERYTHING about you.
Your creator.
Who made you.
So now that you know who created you, and you also know he is MERCIFUL beyond ANY limits. Your friends might not speak to you for a while, you might not speak to your parents (try not to do this) or you have problems even speaking to yourself about your problems.
ALLAH SWT, your creator, YOURS and MINE, has INFINITE mercy. That means he can forgive you , NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU HAVE SINNED. If you believe in ALLAH SWT and his MESSENGER SWS, you can be forgiven. THAT is the critical point.
All is NOT lost. In fact, the very fact you are on this website, and maybe you fell hundreds of times in your lifetime, means you WANT change. You want to change your ways.
THAT in itself is a mercy from Allah SWT himself. Imagine if you did not have even this? You would be lost till you die, and eternity in hellfire which is at the mercy of Allah SWT. Do you want to risk this? You don’t. So now you can firmly take the FIRST step to change.
You must LEARN. Learn about your creator – one of the easiest ways is to pick up a translation of the Quran in the easiest english you can read (the Oxford classics is a really good one). Read about what YOUR creator has said to you in this magnificent manual.
The bottom line is….he is giving YOU me, and EVERYONE reading this, and ALL across the entire PLANET, the CHOICE. The CHOICE to change, and get ALL your sins forgiven. Big or small.
You do not know how Allah SWT sees you. Maybe you have this sin on your record and you want to change it.
So do it for the sake of your creator. WHEN he sees you change, from your heart, and wanting to change, for HIS SAKE. THAT makes ALLAH SWT happy, and doors will OPEN for you in your life to not only overcome this problem, but actually other doors in your life, health, wealth, and peace and contentment.
Pray to get closer to your creator, and it will ALL change. ALL OF IT. All the pain, and suffering….remember HE CREATED you, so HE can change IT.